Hi all,
An update.  Its hard to navigate the world of TBI.  For A LOT of reasons.  I am returning back to my practice of journaling, mostly because I'm posting about it and realize I really miss it.  I journaled today, and surprise surprise it felt really nice.  So I'm going to figure out how I can build this into my day everyday.  And maybe I'll miss days.

I live for inspiring others, while I am also dealing with some big struggles.  But if it were my friend I would think nothing less of her, and I would know that she will be just fine, and has amazing things coming for her.  So I am trying to remember that for myself often.  Something that also really helps me is "nobody has it great their whole life."  That was something I came up with when thinking about people I do know, and people I have listened to, or simply a class of people.  Everybody has a really rough spot somewhere in their life, and so hopefully this is my hardest spot.

I am very grateful that I had the addiction to personal growth before this.  Because I have so many tools and phrases that are floating around in my head all the time, that help me pivot really fast.
The biggest ones are all the practices that I teach in the Magic of Presence.  And some famous people.
Les Brown - "Its possible"
Steve Harvey "so I asked" - Steve Harvey has one talk in particular that I have listened to so many times and just hearing his voice in my head makes me happy.  His visionary energy lifts me up :)
Several pastors.  They are talking about God, and I believe in God, but if you don't it still translates over very well.  The concept still applies.

I mostly do things in 5 or 10 minute increments, that seems to work for me.  And when crying comes up I cry.  There are a few people in my life that are really uncomfortable with the "lower emotions", and they try to make me stop crying/try to make me feel better, I really hate that.  Because they don't understand that they are actually saying "you should keep those emotions bottled up.  This strengthens my resolve to teach people my work.  

I WISH people around me knew how to witness and hold space.  So few people have mastered this art.  And it is powerful.  I think I may return to teaching whether I am ready or not because I miss my class.  That being said, you can still get the big promo until I do begin to offer classes.  In class witnessing and holding space are key elements, and its so delicious.  Its why people love the class.  And I like to focus on manifesting, that too probably :)

And then just battling myself.  I am the personality type that is very idealistic.  Its very hard for me to let go of the vision I had, and just accept that this is how they will go now.  So I have that struggle.  But this exact quality is what helps me create courses that work for you, and keep you accountable to your dream.  And its why I keep getting up and trying again.  So I guess this quality is not all bad :)

AND I've told people this before.  But sometimes life gives you this kind of stuff to upgrade you.  When you choose to upgrade, to do the work, take the course... by your choosing, its fun, and nourishing.  When life says "nah ah, you're done, time to upgrade" and your life turns into a tornado it doesn't feel nice.  And while I know that is what is happening... Its still hard.  I liked it better when I was choosing :)  Though all of this is much easier than it would have been because I choose to do the work for so long before this.

Oh, a positive from all this chaos, is that I have met lots of my neighbors and made lots of neighbor friends.  I am happy about that <3

I do know this: when you are authentic no matter the emotion, good things happen.  You could say you manifest faster.  Being vulnerable is the courage to let people see the authentic.  I don't know who will read this and so that makes it a big risk.  Maybe trolls will read this, and comment, or try to talk to me in person? That's a fear.  And maybe someone will be inspired, to read more posts, sign up for one of my courses, or maybe just be more authentic themselves?  That would be a wish fulfilled <3

That's it for now.  I hope you enjoyed this.  I hope it inspired you to be a little more vulnerable yourself.

Sending love,
​Jessica

Hi <3

Today I wanted to share about my restorative habits.  The way I live is pretty different to many people.  Its intensely restorative.  You know when you decide "tonight I'm going to pamper myself".  That's me everyday.  Yes it does take work.  And its very worth it.  I hope this post inspires you to incorporate something that speaks to you.  We can all improve no matter where we are at.  And don't forget you are perfect the way you are ;) Both simultaneously.

Lets start with bathing.  
Epsom Salt Soak
Taking a bath vs. taking a shower only takes 5-10 minutes longer than a shower - if you are so lucky to have a bath tub *with no water usage restrictions* like in norther California.  But most of us could still afford to indulge in a bath once a week.

If you take a shower you can still incorporate epsom salt into your routine.  I would mix half coconut oil and half epsom salt.  You get a delicious scrub, while also getting the benefits!

​Why?  Epsom salt is magnesium sulfate.  A mineral that our body needs. Our body burns magnesium as a stress response, and its required for about 600 different cemical processes in our body.  Almost everyone is magnesium deficient, and the best way to get it is through our skin, a soak is perfect.. like a bath!  I learned these facts from podcast interviews I'm sorry I don't know the exact person, but I'll include my playlist at the end.

One of the experts said we should be doing an epsom salt soak every day both morning and night.  What's beneficial about using epsom salt vs. taking a magnesium vitamin is that you can't accidentally take too much and require immediate time in the bathroom.  Your body will not soak up more than it needs, but it is possible to swallow one too many vitamins; funny but not funny.

While it is unrealistic to take time to do a soak; bath, or foot soak twice a day, you can add a cup to your bath, or use it as a scrub in the shower every day :)
I like this one, from Amazon

Clean Soap
What does that mean?? lol  When I say clean soap, I mean no harsh chemical.  You can still get perfectly clean and smelling nice without the intense perfumes put in regular soap that are actually not good for you.  I LOVE EWG you can check your products to find out its toxicity rating.  In this case you want a 0.  The lower the number the better.  
When bathing, you don't want to add more chemicals that you got in there to wash away.  When I went through and edited all my products it did take a long time, but if you just do one item at a time its doable.  And your skin will get better!

Here are the two that I use
Bar soap
Liquid soap

Essential oils... Do I have to say why essential oils are amazing?  They smell delicious!  The way I use them most often is as a cleaner, and I spay the walls of the shower before getting in.  Occasionally in place of perfume, and very often in a diffuser just because I like the smell!

For my cleaner, I fill the bottle with mostly water, then put about 10 drops of either peppermint or eucalyptus, sometimes lemon and a little rubbing alcohol.  Because those ones are anti microbial.  I learned this while working at a yoga studio.  It was fun to clean, because it just kept smelling better <3

There are millions of ways to use essential oils,  - enjoy!

Hair mask
If you can eat it then its also good for your outsides :)  Mostly.  When it comes to hair masks, I have tried everything.  Seriously.  The easiest and cheapest for its power is Olive Oil.  Put a good amount of olive oil in your hair lets it sit for at least 20 minutes before washing it out.  Bam amazing hair!

Here my (newbie) video about it  
My Amazing Hair Secret!

Skin Care
sorry to say my skin care has gotten increasingly simple over the years.  You don't need the expensive products in the pretty bottles.  Just something scrubby and a really thick moisturizer.  On my body I scrub with epsom salt.  And on my face, now its just a wash cloth.  

Why?  Because I have learned great skin is not about what you put on it.  Its about what you eat.  Or what you don't eat.  When I eliminated sugar, I could not believe how great my skin got.  So if you have bad skin I'd bet (a lot) that you are eating something not good for you.

And now most of the time my moisturizer is castor oil.

Diet
​The way you eat is pretty important (I believe).  But what's healthiest for you is not necessarily the best for your neighbor for example.  I was vegan for a long time, and that did wonders, until my energy crashed, then I found Keto to heal my gut and fatigue - if you want to condense 15 years into a sentence ;)  Now I eat some variation of the GAPS diet - to keto, with an occasional cookie or ice cream.  Occasional meaning maybe three times a year, knowing I will pay for it later, and that I'll have to return to super strict for a few days.  The point is try out a few different diets, figure out what works for you.

Side note, track your cycle (for women) and the time of year/how much sun exposure you are getting, this influences how your body handles certain foods.

Another side note, part of my "diet" is getting A LOT of outside time.  No sunglasses, no sunscreen.

Because this book was such a game changer for me I recommend it to EVERYONE; if you don't know where to start, and want to try a healthier diet.
The Plant Paradox Cook Book
I didn't realize I had chronic joint pain, until I realized "oh I don't need to take turmeric anymore to make my elbow stop hurting".  My gut dysbiosis immediately got better, and I didn't feel like I would throw up if I ate the wrong thing, and this diet was key in me healing my fatigue.  Oh yes! And good bye chronic headaches, that I later realized I had migraines since I was 12!  The point is, diet is powerful, find your right diet <3

Books!
carrying a book around in my bag and reading it anytime I was stuck waiting really kept me relaxed the whole day.  Now that I have a baby... this habit will have to be put on hold for a while.  But try it out!
​Check out my favorite book on my affiliate recommendations page

Finally...
A commitment to your own personal growth. whatever that means to you.  Seriously it can be as little as 10 minutes a day.  Although I love intense overhauls!  Not everybody does...  Nor may it work for your life.  But you can do something.  And exactly where you are is the perfect place to start <3
​If you don't know where to start check out my self study page

Finally - again ;)  here is my forever growing youtube play list about health and living as your healthiest.  I have learned and incorporated a lot from these interviews.
Ultimate Health Playlist
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There's a lot in hear...
Hope something stood out and felt inspiring,
sending love, Jessica

Hi,

I've been absent for a long time.  If you're new, welcome :)
As many of you know, Fernando my handsome (he's my husband, but I like to call him my handsome).  Because he is mine <3 and he is handsome.  Even after being in the hospital.
So Fernando got into an almost fatal motorcycle accident.  Its been two months, and it has been non stop putting out fires.  I am SO grateful for the help that I have received, and for all the donations in go fund me.
I have cried so much, in the worst places, like when I am in the grocery store, or trying to complete something at the DMV, and not "when I'm supposed to" like in front of my family (very often).

While I know everyone handles grief differently, it doesn't feel like some people around me know that.  AND (simultaneously) the way some people handle grief is so incredibly triggering that I need to leave their presence.  Its not pretty when anyone goes past their trigger points.  Yes I have plenty of trigger points.  I do try to be nice and give people warning.  But that is usually triggering to those exact people triggering me, how about that!  Got to find humor in some of it.

I was shocked and proud of myself that my flight attendant training truly kicked in.  I am so grateful I had 10 years of experience of preparing myself for serious emergencies, and living in a very stressful environment.  This back bone really helped me navigate the new level of demands suddenly dumped n me.  And I also could not have done it without the massive help from my mom  my sister in law, my good friend Kat (thesimplifiedlife.com) (she deserves a shoutout), several other friends and neighbors.  And I still found it really hard!
One I think that's a commentary on our society, and we all live such busy lives (it is normal and necessary)
Two I think a sudden dump of demands that are all immediate and important would be really hard for anyone.

And taking care of a new baby at the same time.  I would not wish this on anyone.  I was able to find good moment and enjoy them.  My precious baby needed me to have that ability.  After a little while I began to find a rhythm, thank god I was so used to self analyzing what worked and didn't that I was able to figure out the rhythms fairly quickly.

So Fernando is ok.  He or rather we have a very long journey still.  He does show some kind of improvement everyday.  Sometimes I have a big reaction, and he doesn't understand why.  I honestly believe that god protected him from dying.  And ever since I was a child I firmly believed that it was impossible to die until you have learned what you needed to learn in this life.  And I feel like god proved that is true to me.  I know Fernando has way bigger things to accomplish in this life, and he will.  We will.

People have said to me so many times "you are so strong, I can't beleive how together you are, or I would not survive the way you are"  While I do think each person that said that to me is just as strong as me (the me that they see).  Maybe I am strong?  I don't know, I don't think I am.  BUT... I am doing several things that are really helping me  and I want to share it with you:

1. I cry it out when it shows up. 
If I'm in the store, on the phone trying to pay a bill...  I do not stuff it, or tell myself to try later when I have time.  I have really tried to feel my feelings in real time as they show up.  When anger shows up, that is pretty hard to handle.  And usually doesn't get a good reaction, which makes me cry... lol

Cry it out, its good for you to release.

2. Meal prepping. 
I was just starting to learn about this.  Honestly I am eating... its a struggle a lot of days right now.  But the days that I have food prepped, wow its such a huge help.

3. I accept lots of help
even though I feel like a burden.  This is so common in our society.  I was a pro at rejecting help.  But its something, I was already working on, and honestly if I didn't accept help I would probably have passed out several times; because its just too hard to fill out paperwork, be present at the hospital with fernando, sleep, shower, cook, eat, breastfeed, take care of my baby, answer phone calls, reply to people... the list goes on.  The demands are all urgent and consuming, and eating can be done later... not really.  Hence why I would pass out.

Accept help.  

And I've also learned at how to offer help, since it is so uncomfortable to ask for help.  I have learned its best to be ridiculously specific.  A lot of people say "just let me know, anything you need" but the reality of our life in this society is that life is just too demanding.  What is better is to say "I would love to do your dishes on tuesday at 2 pm" or "I can help you with whatever you need for one hour on Monday"...  I was just as vague when offering help, and now I know be super specific.

4. Walks or exercise.
Walks have been a way for me to decompress what I accumulated during the day so far.  This is a not negotiable.

5. The flylady system
I heard about the fly lady, and downloaded the app, after watching a few videos.  What is the fly lady?  Is she a fly?  Is she really gorgeous? or together?  Its s cleaning system, and it has really helped me find a little stability.

6. Having goals
My goals totally changed within the last two months.  But still having goals, really gave me structure throughout my day.  And I have all my goals in the fly lady app now, so its build into my day.

7. The magic of presence techniques.
I almost forgot!  There are several that I am still practicing at all times.  This has really helped me cope.

So that is what has helped me get through this so far.  Do I feel on top of things? Nope!  I still have panic attacks, and there's no way I could do it without the massive help I receive from friends and family.

I hope to find the time to journal publicly, so that you can find inspiration in me processing my grief in real time.  One thing that gives me strength is believing that this will help someone else.  I hope my articles help you.

And I hope your life never gets flipped upside down.  But if it does it will be much easier, if you were already choosing to make positive changes before the incident.  I already had my habit of self analysis, drinking water, my diet, waking up early, feeling my emotions, my energetic presence practices... in place, and that helped a lot.

My friend Kat at the simplified life has created a go fund me account for us.  Thank you to those that have already donated, I am SO grateful and I don't know how I will pay you back, but hopefully someday I will <3, please donate, please re-post this, or re-post the go fund me.   This will support us in a gigantic way.  I know we are not the only ones that need support.  But just imagine if you donated $10. but you pasted on the link to 10 people and they all donated $10,  we could get to $100,000 so easily.  And all you did was donate $10, and posted a link.  That's amazing to be a part of something like that.  So thank you.  Thank for for reading my really rambely post. Thank you for being in my life.

Note to fernando, because he probably will read this: I love you my handsome.  It sucks that this happened, but you have gotten better every single day, and you will be better than before your accident.  It might take a long time, but  healing usually takes longer than we want it to.

https://gofund.me/53650c8a

Sending love Jessica

Hi friends,

I thought I'd update you since I really haven't been posting too much.  I had a baby, she's perfect <3 recovery was hard for me.  I don't know how women do it!  Actually the women that I know that went back to work, are not very present to their children, because they are so stressed out.  This society has got to change! - personal opinion.  But seriously, how are women so unsupported?  No woman should be obligated to go back to work for at least 6 months.  Again personal opinion...  Ok, so I was focusing on recovery after birth, and... my husband got in an almost fatal accident.  Stress has been through the roof since then.  Not to mention grief, because at first I didn't know if he was going to survive.  And really a lot of demands, like multiplied by 10.  I don't think I am doing a good job of keeping up, but people say I am doing a good job.

I truly miss teaching my classes, and the work that I teach has tremendously supported me in getting through this.  The marathon has only begun.  But he will be ok thank god.

And my "team" has directed me to return to channeling.  The way that I channel is by journaling.  Very often my journaling turns into channeling, and so I agree with them.  Publishing it will do some good.  I know for myself when I read or listen to other channeling that is authentic, I am upgraded.  And so if my channeling speaks to you you'll also receive some kind of positive shift.  I call this an upgrade.

Side note: upgrading is always ultimately for the better.  Sometimes it feels great, and sometimes you are forced to upgrade, and that does not feel very good.  That feels like your life just doesn't fit anymore.  Then there are tiny upgrades, and being in the presence of channeled communication is one very nice way to receive an upgrade.  Not every one will feel it, I usually do.  And the sensation is specific to you.  Personally, for me it feels like relief, or like drinking a lot of water when I was thirsty.

So lets see what comes through right now.  ps there are often a lot of typos because I type so fast.  I am not supposed to correct it, because that slows me down, and the person reading it should understand.  

Here we go:

Hello,  can I channel right now?  Yes, but not in here.  Go to word, and then paste it.  

Ok, I'll be back.
Hi guys, can you talk?  Yes, we are always available to you.  The sun will distract you though.  Close the blinds.  Ok, that’s better.  Who is this? Your team.  Who is on my team? You know.  And since you will make this public we are not going to say, but you know all of us.  Ok, thank you.  What should I focus on for today?  We actually want to talk.  Ok, what do you want to say?  You are doing a very good job.  You held your ground, those that corrected you are wrong.  You should not seek their advice or approval.  They are very disconnected, and so nothing coming from them that actually be right for you.  Ok, thank you.  What else would you like to say?  It was good that you ate more meat in the morning.  You need to eat more in the morning, this will give you strength physically, but that is important to receive our guidance.  When you get hungry or weak, you become vulnerable to everything else.   Sophia need you.  You do not have the right balance.  What is the right balance?  To go to the hospital in the evening without Sophia.  Its better for her to stay home and receive 100% from someone else, while you spend time with your husband.  And then you are also able to be more present with him.  He needs your attention.  We know that you are spread very thin.  Try to make more meals ahead of time.  Feeling physically good is essential to being able to hear us.  So make that a priority.  You have not, and we understand.  But now, be full.  Ok, I will and what else?  I know you love him, but you must stay in your core.  He does need and want you, but you cannot allow this to fall out of your core.  And it will actually make him love and respect you even more.  Or rather even deeper.  It will also cause him to begin to respect himself.  Barely anyone respects them selves in your culture.  Its not respect as in admiration, but an honoring and giving presence to what arises, and bringing that to the table.  You can be successful and sad or successful and struggling.  They are not contradictory if you honor both and bring them to the table.  This way it just makes you more complete.  If you believe you can only be one thing, and do not honor the other aspects of you then yes it does seem contradictory.  It will take time to get used to that.  And even longer for others to get used to that.  It takes others longer because they are not used to AND consciousness, and holding space.  You are.  But you must have resolve in holding it for yourself.  Because others try to rush you, and that breaks the ability to hold space, to honor, and account for.  Thank you.  Although I knew that already, I really like the reminder.  Plus its great for other people to listen to.

​Hugs

Hello, its journaling time.  I want to talk to my highest self.  Or jesus, who I know is only love.  What does taking my spirituality seriously?  It means taking your self seriously.  It means not catering to anybody.  It means holding compassion for them when they are upset that you don’t bend for them.  Not feeling nervous of what they are thinking, fearful of if they like you, or might get angry with you.  If they get angry, its because they are feeling out of control.  They are angry they are not controlling you.  That is something to dig your heals into the ground for, not be fearful of.  They are abusing you.  Essentially.  And its time to stand up.  You are going to make a lot of people uncomfortable.  That’s the point.  So many people are doing things wrong, and you are here to help them change. Bending for them is actually bad for the planet.  You want love, consideration, compassion, organic, healthy, holistic.  Lots of people are short sighted.  What else does taking my spirituality seriously mean? Taking time to rest.  Ok, and what about the finances.  Turn to us more often.  You could even publish this.  People are craving our speaking.  If personal things come up just delete that.  Ok.  Thank you.  Actually we do want you to puslish your speaking with us.  Why do you say us?  I asked to speak to my higher self, or jesus.  Its your team.  Your higherself is here.  Jesus is holding space, your higherself is directing, and we are all contributing.
  Ok, what should I do to create income.  Publish your channeling for now.  This will open up pathways.  It will help you to see better too.  Do the go fund me.  This accident was a lesson for you both not only him.  There will be many amazing blessings that will come out of this.  What should I focus on to build my career?  Start with channeling.  Every day if you can.  The more you post, the more traction you will generate.  And this is a stress relief for you, so really it’s a win win win.  Because as you know you are also upgrading others as they read your channeling.  And then we get to communicate more directly to a bigger audience.  One that is open.  There is money in channeling.  And it is happy money.  You are giving, and you will receive.  That is the future of money.  No more “what can I do to get…” that way is dying, and the people are dying with that way of thinking.  People are getting more and more sick, some are recognizing it.  The new way is give, and give and give more, and it will come back to you multiplied.  When you give in a joyus way, it’s a gift to you to give (first give), then it becomes fun to give and you look for opportunities (second give), then your faith is strenghtend (third give).  When your faith is strengthened with the regular habit of giving now in place, you have opened up flow.  And then it can show up in unexpected ways.  If you know how it will show up our beloved ego will hijack and figure everything out to the death.  Figuring everything out is an obsession for many.  That’s not the right way to live.  It’s the right way to figure out a specific problem, like for a mechanic or a math problem.  Ok, go to bed.  But post this first.  No correcting.  People will understand.  Because what communicates louder is the energy than the correct grammar.  You know we don’t care about grammar.  I know 😊  We love you jessica.  We love all of you, even the difficult ones.  We are trying to help you all.  But nobody can over step free will.
Good night for now.  Post this now.
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Failure is a part of being great.

Failure is a part of your life being good!...even amazing!

I hate failure, I hate feeling like a failure, and failed dreams are especially painful. I know you feel the same <3
But when I listen to my friends, or anybody else and they are sharing their pain about their perceived failure, I know they are working through a great lesson that will help them get to that next level that they are wanting, or helping to create their "amazing life."

The quote "Einstein failed a million times before he created electricity, and then he was a genius" stands out. But it doesn't really click when you personally are going thought the pain and tears of feeling like you failed.

I can tell you that when I am in the middle of a failed dream... Oh my god, it hurts so much.  Its consuming.  Its hard to see the positive in anything,  Its hard to stop crying and go on with the day.  So I get you!  But thank god I have done enough work, that my logical brain kicks in and reminds me of times it turned around, or famous people that I admire that failed and then were huge successes.  Doesn't mean my emotional brain accepts it, but there is a shred of light <3  

Guess what?! Failure actually means you are on your way to that dream, to being great.

IF, giant IF, you have the courage to feel the pain. It doesn't have to be long, you don't have to wallow in it, but you do have to be willing to feel the depth of the sting. This is the universe working its magic to remove something in you, or make you into what you are dreaming of being, dreaming of living.

Find your right support that can witness you as you go through your failure an d you will get through it even faster, you will accelerate the shedding, and living what your heart dreams of.

I hope this shred of light gives you strength, that this re-frame gave you a big boost. You can do it, it will happen. Its ok if you feel like a failure, it's just a stepping stone. Don't let yourself get stuck in believing that its permanent, even though it might feel like it.

Build your support team, set up a free call.  I am this support for my clients, and I love it.
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/contact
Sending love,
​Jessica

What are your top 3 goals for this year?...
​THAT you are COMMITTED to putting effort toward every day even when (if) you feel frustrated by the progress?

It's awesome to dream, and have goals. But sometimes we get discouraged with how hard it actually is to move forward in our biggest wishes.
Daily life demands get in the way...
Social obligations and commitments get in the way...

Dream big for your goals. Yes, this is very important.

The next step might be more important.
Given what you have going on in your life, what daily actions can you commit to?

Don't change your goals to make it more "realistic" that is cheapening your deep desires - that you 100% deserve. Instead make the baby steps work for you.

When is the best time of day to dedicate time for your effort?

How can you include your friends, family, or community in your goals? People LOVE to help others achieve a dream.

What daily habits could you modify that would support the achievement of your goals?

For a deeper dive check out
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/self-study

Your outrageous dreams are so much closer than you realize <3
With love,
​Jessica

You are a goddess.
Mediate on that for just a minute.
Getting in touch with this truth, what changes?

How would you go about your day differently, while embodying this truth?
Say it out loud "I am a goddess"

How does the goddess that you are deserve to be treated?... By you?

What can you do today to celebrate the amazing goddess that you are?

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Exercise
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Make a list of all the things you love about yourself.  I would encourage you to keep it as a running list adding to it as often as you can with the intention of getting this list to be as long as you can possibly get it.

Now,  what are some things you can do to highlight those things that you love about yourself?

Do you wear something that shows the playfulness or edginess of your personality?
Do you wear lipstick when you typically don't?
Do you wear your best jewelry, because you deserve to enjoy the best things in life?
Do you eat healthier, because you love your health and radiance?
The list could go on and on.

Try it out!  Yes, it does take a little more effort, but you deserve to up level your enjoyment of your life.  Live as the goddess you truly are.

To up level your life in the most gentle and loving way ever sign up for a free class or workshop!
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/presence
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/presence-packages

Sending love, Jessica

We all "know" sleep is important....  SO many of us struggle with sleep.  Me included!

My mom always joked that I was like the princess and the pea, that even though she had 9 mattresses of padding she could still feel the pea at the bottom.  Although as a child I didn't like how my mom would tell me I was so high maintenance all the time.  Its true, and now I take full ownership of it.

I need the room to be cold, have a fan going, white noise, be fully hydrated, have gotten sun during the day, and exercise out doors, have moved my life forward in some way that matters to me that day, be happy about my life direction, prayed, be sleeping/waking at a fairly consistent time.... lol.  Anybody else???

My list of what I need to sleep well is pretty long, and not very negotiable.  I know I am high maintenance...  But lately I have been on a good sleeping streak.  I am SO grateful for this!

My most recent sleep upgrade that I decided to try was an organic mattress and organic sheets.  I love these sheets!  They are so soft.  I just ordered my second pair from the same company because I loved them that much.  And I thought the price was a competitive price.

Check out California Design Den for really delicious sheets.  I hope it helps you sleep better too!
 https://www.californiadesignden.com?sca_ref=2748652.XHavc9q6Ds

I got the 600 thread count.  Very happy with this product.  And yes I am high maintenance about the products I consume.  Going to the next level with my bedding is something I am happy about that I believe contributes to my overall health, though I would probably never be able to prove it.

Then!  At check out, I decided to type in "discount to California..." and to my surprise discount codes did come up.  I have heard about this, but it was the first time I tried.  I enjoyed an extra 10% off just for doing a search.  Thought I'd share, hopefully you'll also get an extra discount!

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Sleep hacks
Start experimenting AND tracking what you do to see what improves your sleep.
Generally I pick three things to pay attention to.  If you have a wearable, then that will make it even easier.  I don't...

I asses how I feel in the morning
How I feel overall throughout the day
And how many times I woke up during the night.

But you pick what will work for you.  It is hard work to sleep hack or bio hack.  I recommend tracking it.

Start with what is easy for you or cheap.

Personally I would start with hydration, focusing on getting to maximum hydration earlier in the day.  If drinking enough water is hard for you, mix it up, with lemon water non carinated tea, ect...

Then get natural sunlight,  and or work out out side.

Take action towards your dreams.  You can do something everyday.  I know lots of us are very busy, but there are still things that you could squeeze into your day.  If the idea of this feels overwhelming, set up a free chat with me, and we'll come up with an action plan that works for you.
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/contact

From there look at your own life, what would be easy to modify or try out for a week.  There are so many sleep experts, and great books about sleep.

And if you are already looking for new sheets, try out these organic ones
 https://www.californiadesignden.com?sca_ref=2748652.XHavc9q6Ds

Sending you love, and wishing you restorative sleep,
Jessica

Its SO common for us to feel frustration in romantic relationships!

You know when they are just being so frustrating? Not doing... Being a ****...

Did you know relationships are actually our biggest mirror....   
Relationships are actually our biggest opportunities for growth... 
​AND you can transform your relationship not by getting them to change, but by changing what you are doing with your energy :)

Yes, it is possible!

Would you like to have more fun, loving, adventurous moments together?

What if I told you that its more about your energy & subconscious than about having the right techniques?

Our subconscious and energy have a much bigger influence in our lives than we realize.

Come try my FREE Magic of Presence class, and see what can change for you <3

Am I an expert in relationships? Nope!
But because of the work that I now teach, I am VERY often surprised with the shifts that I get to enjoy frequently. Compared to my past, and compared to the stories my friends share with me <3
Will I have more hard times, of course! But I do know that the energy techniques work, and work fast, so I am confident for myself going forward, and I want that for you <3

Sign up for your free Magic of Presence class to see what this work will do for you <3

fulfilledandabundant.com/presence

I want to share a funny story about my life. 
I challenged everyone in my class to do a practice while they are at the kitchen sink.  We all wash dishes, so that is the perfect time to practice!  I was washing dishes, then I said to myself "hold on! if I tell everyone to practice at the sink, I better do it too!" So I started doing the energetic practice that we talked about that week in class. Less than 5 minute later My Man (as I love to call him <3); was watching t.v.  We have an open concept living space, so I can hear the t.v. and easily see him, and he can see me.  Often he enjoys watch some t.v. to relax, and when I'm doing dishes, I'm usually silent.

I began doing the practice, and he turn off the t.v. got up, walked over to give me a kiss on the cheek as he hugged me from behind (I love it when he hugs me from behind like that <3) and he asked me what I was doing. lol!!!

He could see I was doing the dishes.  And usually he doesn't turn off the t.v. when he wants to come give me a quick kiss.  I thought this was amazing, and hilarious.  I did have to try not to laugh.  This experience also strengthened my resolve to commit to the practices.  Because it does take practice!

I will admit that I do not watch t.v. I will watch a movie occasionally, and I don't like that he watches t.v.  BUT I don't complain about his habits.  And this day, without me saying anything, he decided to turn off the t.v!

How often does our loved one, do things that we don't like??? I know we all have something that we wish they would do, or would not do.  And as I was doing my energetic practice he "naturally" felt inspired to behave in a way that I want! Cool!

This was just one time, that was really obvious to me, and so I'm able to remember the story.  When you learn these practices you will also enjoy very cool experiences like this, or maybe something better... :)

This work is not about manipulation.  Its just when you change your energy in a positive and loving way, naturally others around you just feel inspired, and they happen to do things by their own choice.

See you in class soon!
fulfilledandabundant.com/presence
Love,
Jessica

Curious about what you'll gain if you do the Magic of Presence 6 week series?

First off I cannot promise exactly what you will gain.  But I can tell you what has happened for other people, and for myself.

See the webpage
PRESENCE

One of the perks that each of my clients get - on top - of the powerful practices you learn in class...  Is a journal prompt for you to dig even deeper if you so choose.

This allows you to gain even more insight and healing beyond the class.  While also allowing you the privacy.  Of course I am available for questions, and you are welcome to share during class, but that is not required.

During class, you'll learn powerful practices, as well as gain gentle integration, and up leveling support, to help you become your next better version.

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So enjoy what this week's journal prompt that each of my clients enjoy
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I am excited for this series!  We will focus on being and becoming calm in the center of chaos; offering stability to others, rather than needing stability; feeling comfortable with our own grief, anger, rage, sadness, frustration... and still going forward with life...  And of course being more powerful than our circumstances, or what others say is likely.

We do have the power to be very influential, without being cunning, convincing, or working extra hard.  Each week we will focus on another layer of what is required to be that "calm."

For this week we will start with AND consciousness.  I capitalize it, so that it stands out as a thing to you, and not a grammatical typo.  I try to allow a little time every series to AND consciousness, because it's a really big challenge to become comfortable with.  And a key ingredient in powerful manifesting.

Teal Swan is a favorite.  And this video demonstrates and consciousness VERY well.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YdnWLN-jtc


Here are a few Journal options:

1 - Listen to this video, then journal about your reaction.  You will have a reaction :)

2 - Pick a topic that you are very clear on.  Very strong opinion.  Where opposing opinions make you angry.  And read or listen to at least two educated articles of the opposite view point.  People with strong opinions that don't have valid points behind them are just a waste of time.  AND consciousness is not about emotional charge or emotional manipulation.  Occasionally people of opposing view points will have a strong emotional charge, do your best to listen to the validity of what they are sharing, while ignoring the emotional charge.  This might require you to do research, to verify if the points that they say are in fact true.
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AND consciousness is about holding two opposing view points as valid.  While still honoring what you believe.  Listing to another point of view does not negate what you believe, it is supposed to open you up to a new layer.  Looking at opposing view points to our own is only one approach to exploring AND consciousness.  AND consciousness is a big challenge to successfully hold, and so its important to intentionally explore it from many different approaches, or view points.  And we can also easily hold AND consciousness in one topic or life, where as another subject may be a huge challenge.  

Successfully holding AND consciousness is a requirement in up leveling, powerful manifesting, and being that powerful "calm" in the eye of the storm.

Sending love,
Jessica

Are you ready to handle difficult situations with calm and ease?
Would you love to feel less of the tornado?
Is it possible that just by being different you could just have less issues?

Sounds impossible right? But it's not :) It's possible for you too :)

I was a flight attendant full time and a preschool teacher part time while I was getting this certification to be qualified to teach it. Amazing things happened.
Both jobs can be a lot. Lol, and I was doing one of them everyday. I lived in chaos.
People think kids are so cute; and they are!!!!  But how about when one is telling you "you look like a witch", another is saying they hate you and want you to go away, two other kids are fighting, and starting to hit each other, another kid is peeing his pants, and one more kid is whining and crying that they want you to come play with them... All at the same time, and the other teachers in the room are also occupied.

Kids are super cute, and fun! But the amount of chaos that often happens is very overwhelming to many.

When I began this Presence work, and practiced what I learned every day. It just got better. That is the best way to describe it. I felt peace and joy. The fighting kids stopped fighting when I walked in the room, the kid crying for my attention would decide to draw me a picture instead, until I was able to go sit with them. The kid peeing their pants, would ask for help before it happened. The kids that would tell me I looked like a witch because of my moles, just stopped. The ones that would tell me they hated me, just stopped. Either they found something else to do, or became the sweet nice child.

It was not overnight, but recognizing that I just didn't experience the same issues was amazing.
It truly felt like I was in the peaceful center of a tornado.
I could see there were issues but they just didn't happen to me, or even come close to me.

Same thing for when I was a flight attendant. I just didn't have the same kinds of issues that my flight attendant friends would talk about; Medicals, having to divert, very difficult passengers, being re-routed to very crappy destinations... Instead what I began to experience was: more and more amazing connections with guests or crew, either amazing conversations or very enjoyable flirtations that made my flight feel like 10 minutes, barely any medicals, no diversions, sometimes my flights would get canceled that would make for an even better layover…

One of my favorite moments while working on the plane:  the three of us flight attendants were talking in the back.  We were in the phase of the flight that was the down time opportunity.  There was a cute pilot commuting, he came to the back to chat, as was normal among crew members (we loved chatting with each other).  I was just listening. Then I remembered this is a perfect time to practice.  So I began to consciously do one of the practices, and instantly he turned and only faced me, and inched closer, the rest of the conversation!  To the point that it got a little uncomfortable, hahahaha!  I laugh because the practice worked instantly and so strongly!  This was not a normal thing for me, for the cute guy to pay way more attention to me, than the other people in the group.

The issues just didn’t happen to me.  I knew why.  I loved it, and that strengthened my commitment.  Other people would just say they had bad luck, and that I had good luck.  But those people are cutting off their own power and ability to grow by saying that.  

I don't know how better to describe it than it just got better... And it was better every time I was consciously doing the practices.

Come learn a better way :)

Try a taste of what could happen for you; now with more dates to pick!

August 27th  - Free Class
September 12th - Free Class
September 3rd - Half Day workshop

Sign up for a free class with this link
https://calendly.com/fulfilledandabundant/magic-of-presence-initial-free-class​

Sending love,
​Jessica

Hello!

This post is primarily an exercise to help you increase the fulfillment and fun in your life now.

So often the big shifts in our life actually come from the tiny changes.  So as you are doing this exercise, include the "big" things, but also include the tiniest details you can think of.  It makes a big difference.

Here it is:

What ways or ideas could I increase my fun or fulfillment in/for:
Today?
Daily (general)?
With each important person in my life?
With each person I like (and would like to grow closer with)?
With strangers?
While Alone?
List any other ways

The goal of this exercise is to come up with as big of a list as you possibly can.  But I am giving you the assignment of at least 5 ideas for each question/person/task...

When you feel complete, go to each of the people on your list, and share with them what relates to them.  Tell them your ideas, ask them if they like any, and if they have any other ideas?

It is supposed to be fun and a co-creative conversation.

Most important step: implement what you can right away!

Sending love, Jessica
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Hi,

This post is a channeled message for a group of my clients.  I thought there was some nice insight that more people would like to read it too.  This is a typed conversation with me and one of my guides.

If you really enjoyed this message and want to learn how to channel for your self, please schedule your free chat.

Enjoy!
Sending love,
Jessica
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Hello team, who is available to speak?  Or guide me in what will be the best for us this week?
It is me Hathor. 
I love you Hathor,
I know you do.  I love you too, I have always been with you. 
Thank you.   Is there a special message you want us to hear right now?
Yes.  Keep going.  Everything is changing quite a bit.  The old way is dying.  Everything you used to know, the way you were comfortable with the world and society existing, and operating is dying.  It needs to happen.  It is over due.  We are trying to allow it to happen naturally, but if it does not happen fast enough you will not like it when we step in.  This class that you teach are the exact tools they need to learn the new way.  And you are doing wonderful, though we also want you to upgrade bigger and a little bit faster.  But now that you have accepted who you are, your pace is just fine.  We are sorry that you needed to get sick to upgrade to the level we needed you to.

What does this mean that everything old and familiar is dying.  A lot of change is still yet to come.  For many this is a wonderful thing.  For a few, this will be so painful for them, and as you know those people will choose to die instead of change.  This is a hard thing to accept.  But remember there is no death the way you think it is.  They just transition into a new realm, until they are ready to step into their new life.  Truly it is a beautiful process. 
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I know all of this, is this all important for each of them to know?  
No.  But it will be helpful in understanding the underlying of what is going on.  And that nothing will stay the same, everything will work differently than it used to.  And this is a very good thing.  People will not move forward in their lives without love in their hearts.  Those that hold love in their hearts no matter the emotion will grow much more quickly than others around them.  Let it be ok that you are growing faster than others around you.  You are the example of the new future, of what is next.  It can be hard to be ahead of those around you, but if you remember that you are an example, you are a teacher, and that just letting it be ok is exactly what is needed, then that is perfect.

This work (what I teach) is the beginning of the new way.  More inclusive, more integrative. More comprehensive and holistic, always with the heart at the center of every decision.  Is there any more of this message that you want to say?  No.  I believe you will all understand.  Everything is changing, let it change. 

Thank you Hathor.  

Hello!

I recognize that in this blog I mostly talk about mindset, habits, prompts, and different tools to help you.  And I rarely talk about energy, which is what I teach.

I find energy hard to talk about.  Its an esoteric thing, and not widely accepted/acknowledged in mainstream society.  Even though its still there, its still at work ;)  Energy is also highly individual.

Each of our emotions have a different energetic quality and weight in our body.  Some emotions actually increase our energy, while other emotions feel like they zap our energy.  In truth everything, EVERYTHING has an energetic quality to it.  Its just that it takes time, patients and curiosity to really feel into the quality, and over time recognize it, then eventually be able to put words to it.  The funny thing is that, because speaking about energy is so uncommon, we all have a little different language to describe things, so two people talking about the same exact thing could be using different words; and these words may mean different things to each other! How about that for a mind bender! Lol

The next series I have coming up is themed "Money Magnet."  I LOVE teaching this work, because I usually feel what you are feeling, and so its pretty easy for me to get you to a lighter better feeling space.  I'm able to find the right words that work for you, to get the openness and receptivity that I want you to enjoy - and the reason you signed up for the class.

Money is an interesting topic, because it has such a heavier weight or charge to it than many other topics.  We all have beliefs that we have picked up and implemented throughout our lives, our society operates using money, so much of what we want for our selves requires money....  these can be big blocks to attracting or generating the money that we do want.  So sometimes frustration can build, because energy is confusing to untangle on your own.

But working together is fun, seeing each other's wins is fun, and knowing that you have people that truly want you to win feels amazing :)

So what does it feel like to "attract" rather than "go out and get"?

It feels like finding something you really wanted, but forgot about, so you quit looking, then "YEAH! I was looking for that for so long!"

It feels like "wow, how cool! can you believe that just happened?!?"

It feels like easy natural fun, NOT adrenaline addiction high fun.

It feels like "thank you God" reassurance sometimes.

It feels like "thank you, thank you, thank you!" as you are excited to also pay the person back.

It feel like "wow, I can't believe how easy that went" 
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While its still important to put effort in the things you want for your life, there is a different feeling as you are doing what you need to do.  There is less doing things out of fear, or obligation, and more doing things out of faith, clarity of your plan, knowing you are doing the right steps - while also knowing, "hey maybe something amazing will also happen today, but either way, its going to be a good day."

Yes, the theme of the class will be focused on money, abundance, and prosperity, but that does not mean other good things won't happen in multiple areas of your life :)

In the past, I've had clients that have done work around money, and then healed big wounds in their family relationships/dynamics.  Or their health suddenly made a big improvement... just as examples.  Though if you really think about it, how much money would you have paid to have an improved relationship with that person or to have that draining health condition suddenly significantly improved?  That is actually a very big financial savings, its just way too often, we only value what we paid dollars for.  And often discount the things in our life that are actually draining our finances when we don't have a clear origin or solution.

As someone that went though debilitating fatigue, I can tell you health problems are seriously so expensive.  I wish good health for you and everyone else you know.  Or how much would you pay to be in the relationship of your dreams?  I can tell you I paid A LOT of money trying to figure out what I need to do, who I need to become... to finally meet my amazing man.

I hope to see you in this next series to increase your "Money Magnetism" where we will increase your overall abundance and prosperity.  

While the value is immense for this hour and a half, its important that you see what this work can do for you first.  If you are ready to try something new, you'll enjoy this free class :)
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/presence

Sending you love,
Jessica

Another series of Magic of Presence has been completed and some amazing manifestations have occurred for everyone in the class including me! <3

The next series' theme is titled Money Magnet.  I am very excited for all of us to attract, increase and/or generate more money in our lives!

Money is actually where my coaching journey began <3  Or even younger... As a child I made up this system of percentages that I applied to my life for the next +15 years.  Later,  MUCH later, I learned that Dave Ramsey had created this system.  But I am still proud of my 12 year old self for rejecting conventional thinking, and being so determined to find a way that I created a system that truly worked for me and everyone that I taught it to.  In telling this story to my coach, she recommended me to look into Money Coaching.  I looked into the program, and less than a week later I was beginning the first class.  On day 1... I was in heaven <3 

It was this ecstatic relief sensation that I knew I was exactly in the right spot.  This is what I was meant to do.  I was good at it, and loved studying.

I had been on the committed personal growth path for a while by the time I got my first certification.  I saw the huge benefits in my own life, but also the positive influence that was happening on the people around me.  I was addicted!  When I first started out, I was especially excited about becoming a Certified Money Coach because I figured, everyone wants more money, so that will attract people to doing the work, and make the world a better place, one person at a time <3

I have since expanded my Coaching Certificates, and eventually will add more certifications to the list; as well as my tools continue to grow.  

Now what I am most passionate about is helping you to win; helping you to transform your life into something that you are in love with.  To some people that will mean more money.  To some people that will mean better relationships with their friends and family, or having a group of friends that you actually feel great to be together, the relationship of your dreams, the career of your dreams, fame, thriving vitality... We are all so unique to our dreams and desires.

But having a bit more money will help you to achieve whatever dream you have ;)  And learning a new way of being to attract, create or generate that abundance, prosperity, or money is exciting, but more importantly it is transformative.  This work is exciting, and fun.

SO, what is your vision of prosperity?
I encourage you to really feel into that, journal about it.

I know there is a lot of chaos going on in the world, but this work changes things.  It changes your experience of life.

Join me for this next series, where we are going to help each other increase, attract or create the prosperity we desire by learning how to be a money magnet!  While I cannot make any promises, I 100% expect everyone to increase each their income, because I know this stuff works.  And I know how to modify the practices so that it will click for you.

You are worth it.
Hope to see you in the upcoming FREE class on Monday July 25th.  You have nothing to lose in trying out this work before deciding if you want more.  And you have everything to gain.

Final question: 
What is it costing you to do exactly what you have been doing? 

Sign up for your free class!
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/presence

Sending love,
Jessica

Lots of us know we should reduce or even eliminate our sugar intake... so.... why don't we?

 Sugar and sweets are so incredibly addictive, and SO  common place.  Our society includes sugar loaded foods in all of our holidays, and its always the center of any get together.  Its so common place that a lot of people don't even know the food they are choosing has sugar in it!

I challenge you to eliminate sugar out of your life for at least 3 months, and you will be amazed at the progress that happens within your life!

I know how painful cutting out sugar can be.  For that reason I personally believe its better to do it over a period of time, for example three months, and to really focus on what you are increasing or replacing.  I do have a systematic approach to making these kind of diet changes.  That I am happy to share with you over a free Chat.

But if you do not want to work with me, there are tons of other people and resources.  Of course you can do it on your own, but with sugar, its much harder.

My journey:
I had massive gut issues, that were really a giant problem.  It really got in the way of me living, and even working.  It was pretty obvious to me that I could not tolerate sugar, as I would through up from even one bite of sugar, so that made me not want it.  BUT my body still craved it, for over a month, I still wanted sugar, and I considered myself a person that didn't eat sugar...

Except for the 5 spoons I added to my coffee every day,
oh year, and the chocolate when I went to the store,
and when I hung out with friends, I would indulge in the treat,
and the occasional juice that I really liked...

But I didn't eat sugar, haha!

I see this all the time!  Someone will tell me they don't eat sugar as they are drinking a diet coke, and if they caught my weird look at them, they would tell me there is no sugar in diet coke its aspartame, or stevia...  But its not their fault, there is intentional deceptive advertising, and the truth is often hard to find.  But it is there if you look.

Anything sweet flavor has sugar in it.

​This includes fruits, and everything packaged.  All packaged products have sugar in them.  Sugar also serves as a preservative.

Once I did truly eliminate sugar from my life, I noticed some really awesome side effects!

I saved money while grocery shopping.
Less decision fatigue while shopping!
My skin got way better -  things that I just though were a part of how I am.
My gut issues improved significantly.
It was fairly easy to intermittent fast, which saved me time and money.
Its easier to be present, and go deeper in emotional work.
I became more in tune with my body - when I craved sugar, then I knew it was time to eat, rather that feeding the craving.
Lots of other benefits

​The only way to learn truly how powerful eliminating sugar will be for you is to try it out!
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Sending love, 
Jessica

Do you have some goals that just feel out of reach? Or illogical? Or maybe don't even make sense how they will happen?

I know sometimes the thing we may want makes no sense.  Maybe it seems so out of reach that "why even torture yourself by dreaming?"

But when we allow ourselves to want what we truly want, things around us conspire to make it happen.  And sometimes the dream wants you.  Sometimes the dream choose you; to want it.  The first time I understood this concept was while reading "Elisabeth Gilbert's Big Magic".  And then I began to recognize all the points in my life where it was true, and how it did and does happen for me now.  Sometimes the dream chooses you.  I know its a funny concept to take in :)

I am a big believer in having many goals/dreams.  I think its a powerful thing, to be clear on your direction.  And sometimes life throws you curve balls, and that is exactly where having many goals in different areas of your life comes into play.  This way you always have control that you can move forward in at least one area of your life.

This week I have been hurt, and so in trying to honor my body and give it the rest that it wants and needs, I am doing my best to do nothing.  Its a challenge. 
This morning I was doing my journaling process and reading my goals out loud.  And then I realized! Oh my god! I achieved one of them!  It was actually because of being hurt that I achieved one of my goals.  BECAUSE of a curve ball that I would never have consciously chosen.

This is a wonderful example to everyone, and a big reminder to me, that doing less will still get you to where you want to go. 
SO please do dream big,
review your goals often, do what you can each day,
and somehow you will get there. 
Sometimes the curveballs, will even be the blessing you were wishing for ;)

Sending you love,
​Jessica

All emotions are good, all emotions have insight to give us.  

If you enjoy reading my blog, chances are you are a growth mindset person, and often choose to grow and stretch!  But even for those of us that are growth mindset sometimes it feels like it is happening to us, and this is not as pleasant.  Maybe it happens in an area of life we often don't look at? Or maybe it happens at a speed and intensity that we would never choose.  I know both of these so well.  I have been forced to upgrade many times at a pace way more intense than I would ever choose, and also in areas of my life that I didn't realize I was not giving enough attention to.  You are not alone <3

In either case; when we are growing or stretching intentionally or if it feels like its happening to us; an array of unpleasant emotions can show up.  From anger, resentment, anxiety, sadness, feeling numb...  this does not mean stop or give up!  But you may want to allow space, or a pause, give the emotions showing up some room to express their concern.

It is important to have the right people that you can turn to to share your concerns and be witnessed, without receiving pity, being told to give up, or bulldoze through those emotions and what is going on.  

Unfortunately a lot of us don't have the right people that understand how to hold space, witness, while still knowing the truth about us - that we will succeed.  This is one reason working with a coach or having a support circle is so important.

The other day I channeled for myself about boundaries.  I was feeling very angry, and not clear on why, so I began to channel to gain insight.  Anger is an emotion that shows up when a boundary has already been crossed.  Its like "the protector behind the battle line."  I know that's a weird metaphor, but I think it paints the accurate picture.

Anxiety is anticipation that a boundary will be crossed or that a need will not be met.  Essentially its anticipation that you will not be validated.

Sadness or grief could be an expression of attachment to what you lost, might be loosing, or didn't get.

Resentment, I think is some combination of anger, sadness, or anxiety.  Depending on the person.

Conversely Joy, excitement, happiness, fulfillment... you are in the flow of expansion, you are comfortable where you are, and also enjoying the ride to the next level.  I know this is where we would all like to be, but sometimes that's just not how it goes. 

Check out the image.  In the blank space is where both Resistance and Boundaries being crossed exists and occurs.  The comfortable growth area, is how far we are used to stretching, and our visions and dreams are way outside of that!  Sometimes we are able to handle or suspend resistance to achieve our dreams, and sometimes its more challenging.   

Conversely having our boundaries be crossed is a REALLY uncomfortable thing, equally as uncomfortable as our needs not being met.  Which essentially I see our needs as a boundary, its just that its a boundary that you want certain people to touch.  As you get comfortable with each new level the outer limits extend.  And so truly we are always growing.  Its just those of us that are growth mindset choose to stretch more often, and those that are not growth mindset experience each new level as a threat, and so it does not feel nice through the whole process, until they/we have finally acclimated (grown) and have acceptance, and maybe even enjoy this new level.

This is what I do.  I help you to though the potential resistance with much more ease, strengthen your courage to express your boundaries to others, and help you get to those dreams and visions that are waiting for you, wanting you to be there at your next level.   Getting to your dreams can happen so much faster than you might believe <3  

So what are you dreaming of?
Tell me! I would truly love to know!
www.fulfilledandabundant.com/cotact

Sending love,
Jessica

Did you know that its possible to manifest your desires no matter what mood you are it?

Yep!  You do not have to be is a great feeling state to attract your desires.  Although typically people are more accepting of receiving even more good things when they are already feeling great.  Don't limit yourself by believing it has to be that way.

I actually manifest a ton from a bad mood.  Because when I am in those places, of hopeless heart break, of feeling so angry people actually run away from me... I have no resistance.  I am so absorbed in the bad feeling that the next day or two the very biggest thing I had been wanting, shows up.  Just like that.  Its amazing!

Check out my article Dreams Come True.

So I encourage you to submit and completely feel however you are feeling.  Of course if you are feeling an intense emotion like rage, grief, or depression, please take the necessary steps to have loving support so that you do not harm yourself or anyone else, or cause more damage that might be difficult to repair later.  If this is you please set up a free chat, and we can create an action plan for you.

When you submit and allow yourself to completely feel the feeling something magical happens, some kind of integration or release happens, its amazing.  I want this for you too! Although it does take a lot of courage to completely feel grief or rage, or any other unpleasant emotion.  Hope you enjoy this video!

Please share your comments below!
​Sending love, Jessica

In excitement of the next series coming up, I wanted to share more about this theme!

What is Joy? 

Journal about that before you read my thoughts :)

Joy to me, is a peaceful kind of happiness.  Its not excitement, or elation, but its laughing easily, its being in the present moment easily and happy with what is.  What is is perfect.  I do think it is possible to feel joy even when there is chaos or something unwanted around you.  This does require training to be able to be present to something unwanted and still feel joy.  With Joy; for some people I do think that there is a formula that for that particular person is tried and true.  I do not believe this is the case for all people.

What is Fulfillment?

Journal first :)

Fulfillment to me includes a sense of progress, peace, joy or happiness, and a recognition of your contribution.  Personally I enjoy the feeling of Fulfillment way more than Joy.  With Fulfillment I do believe its possible to feel both sad and fulfilled at the same time.  With fulfillment there is a sense of knowing that you are in the right place, that you are going in the right direction (even if things suck in that moment), and that you effort is important.  With deep fulfillment, there is usually some element of risk that was required before that deep sense of fulfillment.

And Risk!

We all know what Risk is.  Please do not do anything potentially harmful or reckless.  That is not the kind of risk I am talking about.   Taking a leap, or a risk is required for your growth and its also a part of what helps us to feel deep fulfillment.  Risk might be speaking your truth? Stepping up your visibility? Saying no or establishing a boundry with a loved one?  It might be quitting your job?  Signing up for a new class?... Risk is different for everybody, the only common thing is that its on the other side of our comfort zone.  We all have this invisible line that we operate inside, and that is called our comfort zone, risk is beyond that line :) BUT we know it when we have crossed that line! We might feel uncomfortable, nervous, feel sweaty, panicky, anxious, maybe even fear?

Personally I do not think its a good idea to go so far beyond our comfort zone that we trigger a full blown panic attack in ourselves.  But getting to know your edge is a good thing for our expansion, fulfillment and deep satisfaction in our lives.

Also when we try something new, or scary to us, we shake up our energy flow for the better, and we also change up and accelerate what the universe is able to deliver to us.  Again this does not mean doing reckless things, like spending money we know we don't have, going out with a person we don't actually feel good about, to a location we know nothing about, or any number of situations that test our physical or emotional safety.
When we take risks towards our desires - in this case those things that stop you from making your desire happen, we shake up the energy around us.  We open up new energetic doors that were not previously available to us!  SO, while taking some kind of risk is an effort of sorts, its also telling the universe "HEY! I'm serious about this desire!"  This is exciting to the universe, and our friends around us, and the universe, and those we love want to help us.  Thus manifesting faster.  This further increases our joy and fulfillment in life!
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In preparation for this upcoming class.
You achieve so much more than you realize!  Looking at this list will strengthen you for the next leap you are about to take :)
 
Look at how far you have come in the last 6 months.
And then also how far you have come in the last three years.

Please get out a piece of paper, and fill at least one page, of the things you are proud of from both the past 6 months, and the past three years.

If you need prompts here are a few:

I used to... do/be/ act/...
I have read xx amount of books...
I am doing so much better in _________ than last year/three yeas ago.
I paid off...
I saved.....
The good thing that came out of ___________ was ...
I learned...
I am proud of me for ....
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Learn more about the upcoming series
fulfilledandabundant.com/presence

Sending love,
​Jessica

Hello!
I hope you are doing well 
I know I am so excited that the weather is getting warmer, and it's much more enjoyable to spend way more time outside!  (Time outdoors is a critical component for me to recharge and fill up my own energy, like doing pushups!)

I wanted to let you know about my upcoming events!
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The next series of Art of My Presence is coming up!
Monday June 6th 3:00 pm PST
fulfilledandabundant.com/presence

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The first class is always free.  It's a powerful and very fun class.  Many people have even manifested something they were wanting just from the first class  and everyone feels better afterwards, weather they came in crying and then felt calm and peace, or came in happy and then felt raised up even higher.  
This class is perfect for anyone, no matter where you are emotionally, or how advanced you are (or not) energetically.  And appropriate for anyone 14 years and older.  Yes, boys are very welcome, although generally women are much more attracted to this work. 

Those that have been with me for a long time are enjoying some very powerful and restorative integration.  It's amazing, and magical to witness each of my clients manifest, up level, and become more solid in their foundation = their lives are getting better. 
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The theme for this upcoming series beginning June 6th, is Joy, Risk and Fulfillment
I know, it looks like a weird theme.  During our 6 week class we will focus on Joy and Fulfillment, outside of class I am going to encourage you to take some risks!
Risk is a key element to our expansion in Joy and Fulfillment.  Can you think of a time you took a huge risk, to thankfully achieve it, and then feel that ecstatic elation afterwards?  And sometimes even moving 1 inch closer towards risk causes so much anxiety that you are in a sense debilitated?  Focusing on increasing your joy and fulfillment intentionally is KEY to strengthening you to be able to take that risk.  I am not talking about reckless risk.  I am talking about that thing you have been wanting for a long time but the things you have to do to get there are scary. 
Maybe its a difficult conversation - so that you can arrive and deeper connection and understanding?  Maybe its being vulnerable and authentic with that really sexy potential partner?  Maybe its being way more public or social media or anywhere else - so that you can grow your business or client base?  Maybe its changing your business services that you know would do you a lot of good, but you are scared to go forward?  Maybe its quitting your job to start your own business?...
We all have that thing and it is scary.  Its scary because their is potential for failure, whether its encountering trolls, the conversation blowing up, or your business not actually being successful by the time you really needed it to be…  Rejection in any form is terrifying to almost everybody.  Those very few who appear to not be afraid of rejection, are either really good at pivoting or reframing the experience.  And that is where focusing on Joy and Fulfillment comes in!  It supports you to pivot faster, and reframe the experience with a little more ease.
This series there will be a little more accountability and connection with the other classmates than previous classes.  I think this will be more fun.  But I’ll also be holding you to the fire a tiny bit more ;)  Don’t worry, I am included in this!  We’re all in this together, and so you’ll also see my vulnerabilities, as we all up level together.
For 6 weeks you’ll have a team rooting you on in both your expansion in Joy and Fulfillment, as well as going for those risks!  That in itself is already a win <3
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I invite you to try the free class to experience what this kind of work can do for you. 

Read more about the class here
fulfilledandabundant.com/presence

Bonus: there is a beautiful downloadable phone wallpaper that is my free gift to you at the bottom of this web page for you to enjoy and start your intentional up leveling process right now.

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Make Space for Your BEST Life Weekend Workshop
June 11th and 12th

Have you ever been curious of how your home could support your dreams manifesting faster?

This weekend workshop is an online organizing event, where we all organize together, but from a very different perspective.  We call in your dreams!  And make space for them in the focus area of the home.  The topic for this workshop will be Money. So we will focus on the area of your home that most relates to Money.

Read more about the Weekend Workshop here:
June 11th and 12
fulfilledandabundant.com/weekend

This workshop is an extended celebration of Mother's day, please forward this to any mom that you adore, as she might win the workshop for free 
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Read about my most recent manifestation and celebration here
fulfilledandabundant.com/money-for-thought/dreams-come-true

Sending love,
Jessica

Personal Update
I'm not sure how to start this.  In general I usually keep my personal life pretty private.  I truly hate being talked about.  I know, as a coach, that wants to be big and inspiring to millions, this is something that I have to get over, or be comfortable with.  

I have some big news <3
I  got engaged this weekend!  But I want to share more about my internal journey around this because meeting "My Man" has been the number one thing that I wanted since I felt attraction towards guys, and for the most part was not happy with my results.  Sure there were a few happy moments...  There was so much pain around this, and other people made it so much worse, that I resolved to never talk about who I dated until I was engaged.  I would not give anything that would lead people to ask me questions.  I would shut down the conversation if people asked me about my dating life.

I've done my work, I learned the Art of Feminine Presence, which helped quite a bit, and working with my coach Rebecca also helped a ton.  I think all the internal work, incantations, energy work, energy clearing, manifesting exercises contributed for sure, as well as going through the painful hopeless moments.  I believe I've experienced many "dark nights of the soul" but right around (before) I met my now Fiancé, Fernando, I felt heart broken, crying, so profoundly angry at God, and telling God.  I don't remember what exactly happened to trigger that.  But I do remember the hopeless heartbreak I felt that night, and that it was only a few days earlier to meeting Fernando.

The day we met, I was feeling especially awful, definitely not even hoping to meet someone.  My goal for the day was to feel better.

We met at a local beach that I love going to because its beautiful, but it also has the best energetic vibration in Marin.  That summer I was going there a lot to heal and recharge.  That year I had been working on healing some really intense fatigue.  Debilitating fatigue.  I was working on finding a doctor I was happy with, but it was very hard.  I was researching, and doing everything that made sense to me.  My life had flipped upside down to one of 100% healing.  In my intense paying attention to myself, I learned that grounding and sunlight were the single biggest things that made me better.  On the particular day we met.  I was feeling awful.  I decided to spend a long time at china camp to feel better.  I packed my keto breakfast, computer, journal, and blanket ready to spend most of the day there.   I was wearing no make up because I didn't feel like it, and obviously I wouldn't meet anyone ;)

I hiked to china camp, walking down the hill to the benches so I could eat.  And I see this guy on a motorcycle driving really slow.  I move over more, thinking about the quote from super troopers "I can't pull over anymore, man."  I laughed a little to myself. :)  He's going super slow, and I am thinking, what is he looking at???  Mildly paranoid.

I sit down on the benches, and he sits down on the other picnic bench.  There are not much options.  Because I'm so social and love talking to people, we start talking.  I was working on my journal, he asked about it.  Then I was excited!  I want to teach everyone my process of journaling (reaching for goals, in a daily way).  I think everyone should have a coach, and be reaching for some kind of growth, so I was VERY EAGER to teach him my process.  He felt like he was seeing too much, but I was so excited to show him.  I didn't think it was a big deal to show him my journal since I would probably never see him again anyway.

Then I asked him if it was ok if I ate.  I had a can of sardines, and a can of olives.  I knew the smell would be gross for someone that didn't like sardines, which is why I asked. He thought it was weird that I asked him if I could eat.  We talked as I ate, commenting on keto, and how he was interested in becoming keto.  Later I found out he couldn't believe I was eating something like that for breakfast.  He told me he was actually mildly grossed out - haha!  ONLY because he expressed interest in growing and keto, did I take his email.  I was not at all in the space of thinking about dating!  I could see he was attractive, but that's not where my head was at!  My friend Crystal Ra was about to start a wild fit program, and because I want everyone to better themselves and their lives, I was very eager to connect them.  I thought email was appropriate.  He was disappointed, and thought I was not interested.  I still think its funny that I was not thinking dating at all.  But what stood out about him was his heart.  I really liked his heart.  I didn't know anything about him, but his heart felt really nice, and for some reason I wanted to be friends with him.

It turns out he the closest thing I've ever met to my wish list.  I didn't even think that was possible, even though I did the work to try to train myself into believing it was. I made an extra long and detailed list on purpose.  I can't tell you how many times people would tell me "that doesn't exist."  But it does.  And he's actually more romantic than I wished for! This is a wonderful bonus <3

So that's how it all started!

Then Saturday night, he took me to china camp and we ate dinner on the same benches we met <3 I was actually getting a little frustrated with him, because he was being so weird, haha!  Then he got down on one knee and asked me the question, I have always fantasized about being asked by the man I am in love with.  I was in so much shock that I was laughing, and he had to ask me again if I am saying "yes?".  YES!

It was a perfect proposal, exactly the way I have always fantasized.  Casual, beautiful, intimate, and a surprise.  I'm so happy he choose to bring me to the place that we met.  To celebrate that beautiful day where I was completely unaware!  He even chose the ring style that I have all over all of my vision collages (that he has never seen).

I am very happy <3
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Sometimes manifesting our desires takes so much longer than we are comfortable with.  In this case, that is what happened for me.  But there are so many other pieces that we don't know about that would affect the outcome of our desire.  Looking back, now that I know him much better.  Although I would have been attracted to him at all phases of our lives, both of us were not in the right place to have been together successfully.  I was so quick to dump men at the slightest hurt.  And he would have hurt me.  And so if it happened any earlier in our lives, it would have been ruined.  Once upon a time I was so committed to protecting my self, that I was actually toxic.  Of course I couldn't see it in the moment.  It took a lot of painful introspection and pattern unwinding to recognize how my attachment to not getting hurt, was hurting me very much.  Now, I am grateful to have had that time to do the work.  I am proud of how I show up in my relationship, and grateful that my biggest wish has become a manifested reality.  

No games, just being authentic me.  It took a lot of time to build up the strength to be vulnerable; to learn how to love myself;  and to have (more) courage to be me publicly.  That once upon a time, being even the slightest bit vulnerable would cause a panic attack, or for me to run away physically, so as to not feel the beginning of a panic attack.  Thank you to my wonderful coaches that supported me to grow in the ways that I really needed to grow.  Thank you Rachel Jayne Groover and Rebecca Massoud <3
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As always, I like to turn my own stories back to you.  Because really its about helping you to get what you are wanting. 
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So what is that thing you have been wanting for a long time? 
What if it was actually closer than you thought?  What would that change about how you go about your day?
Have you ever considered that learning how to change your energy would open up new doors that you never noticed before?
What if you were on the fastest and best path to all of your desires.  What does that change about how you feel right now?

You will get those things your are deeply desiring for your life.  Sometimes working with the right person will help you to get there faster.  I definitely needed my coaches, and I love LOVE being that same exact support to my clients.  Thank you for reading, and sharing in my big celebration, and cheers to you and also enjoying your future celebrations.

Sending love,
Jessica

Today I just finished a call.  Before the call I decided I was going to go to the beach to ground and get some sun. 
After the call, I thought about my day, and then I said “I don’t have the time” And I felt the weight of my fatigue get way worse right away.  I rationalized, maybe I can lay down on the balcony?  As I looked at the meters of the house, that are on my unit, that I know cause EMF’s (Electromagnetic Fields). 

Where as, at the beach, I would be truly grounding, and there are no power lines around, and I know how delicious the energy is there… I started to stress out.  Seriously! What a dilemma, lol ;)
So, I sat down and asked my body and God, which one they wanted me to do. 
Beach! Hands down. 
So, I decided to go.  I got there, and it was delicious.  I felt my body melt right away.  I set up the blankets, laid down, baking in the sun <3 

I could feel receiving the healing grounding energy from the earth, and the delicious hot infrared light from the sun (I was covered up because it was still cold.  But with a blanket over me, I was baking <3!!<3!!  And then I realized, this.  How dumb! It truly costs me a lot to not go ground at the beach.  I feel so recharged afterwards, and significantly happier, compared to being at home, trying to be productive, but actually take 2 naps, and not doing anything, except spinning my wheels.  And after returning from the beach, I felt recharged and inspired, which is actually more productive.  I know we all do this, and so some self-analysis is a good thing.

What does "not enough time" or money mean for that matter?  Seriously, I don't have the time to do something that I know is super good for my health and energy levels?  What???  The truth of that statement, when I really look at it, is actually "I am choosing to put importance on obligations, rather than what I know will nourish me, and support me for the things that matter in my life."
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And yet, we all say that we don't have the time, or don't have the money to do something that we know would be really good for us.  Because of me catching myself I will be going to the beach way more often.  And now I know, when I say that phase, "ding ding, pay attention!!"
 Also when you say you don't have the time or the money -to get out- of some situation, you are actually lying.  And the energetic cost of lying sticks with us for a while.  Where as if you said the truth "I don't want to" or "there are other priorities more important to me right now" you walk away with clarity, and feeling more empowered.  There is no internal questioning that happens.

What do you say you don't have the time for?

What do you or have you said you don't have the money for?

What is it costing you to pass those things up, and stay the same?

When we choose change, its powerful, uplifting, and brings in new possibilities that were not available to us before.  We we avoid change, it eventually comes crashing down on us, and feels horrible.  I have gone through both, several times :)  Its not to say any of us won't go through that again.  But it is beneficial to do some self analysis.  Choose the thing that will actually make your life richer <3

Sending love,
Jessica